Ever get to the place where you ask yourself, “What have I done?” I am kinda there right now, writing this post. Actually, this is a question I long to ask the Church as a whole–What have we done? Have we, because of our own self-righteousness, insecurities, and inability to comprehend a God who loves everyone unconditionally, caused hundreds of thousands of people to live sin-filled, secretive, isolated, fear-filled lives? Have we created a situation in which our prejudice and power forces others to choose between a monogamous love relationship or the Church’s approval? When we refuse to protect homosexual relationships through marriage and as a Body label individuals immoral because of their sexual orientation are we not in truth forcing homosexuals to behave immorally? Who can blame a homosexual for thinking “to stay with any one relationship too long could be dangerous” especially when the people who would judge them as immoral because of that relationship also have the power to harm them–to take away an individual’s job or deny him promotions, to stop homosexuals from buying homes in “nice” neighborhoods or keep her from gaining custody of her biological children? And those examples are not even the most frightening, dangerous, or emotionally traumatic experiences homosexuals have had to face.
I can no more say all homosexual sex is bad than I can say all heterosexual sex is good. And frankly, neither can you. In the first place none of us are God. We were never meant to discern between good and evil. That was God’s job in the beginning and He would like it back! Our job is to love. Love. In the second place, despite our misquoting scripture the “abomination” is a word against unbridled behavior associated with orgies not homosexual sex per se. God gave us that admonition because such behavior is not loving or honoring or healthy or safe–for anyone!
I would be the last person to tell a pastor he must, against his moral conviction, marry a gay or lesbian couple or even welcome them without reservation into her fellowship. At. the. same. time. unless God Himself visits me with a word to the contrary I will not believe of my God that He supports the condemnation, hate, anger, violence, bigotry, and harm done to others in His name with regard to the issue of homosexuality. Don’t fellowship with homosexuals. Don’t invite them to your small groups or into your homes. The homosexuals will not be missing much because you choose prejudice and ignorance over relationship. But in American do not pretend that just because the Founding Fathers believed in God(as most of them confessed) you have the right to shackle others based on your religious tenets.
I didn’t have these links when I originally posted so I’m adding them now. Check out the other posts which are a part of the syncroblog for October:
Kathy Baldock at Canyonwalker Connections – Marriage “I Do” For Who
Dan Brennan at Faith Dance – Sexual Difference, Marriage and Friendship
Steve Hayes at Khanya – Same Sex Marriage Synchroblog
Sonja Andrews at Calacirian – In Defense Of Marriage
John C O’Keefe – Exactly What Is Gay Marriage
Liz Dyer at Grace Rules – Nobody knows why or how same-sex marriage is harmful
Herman Groenewald at Along The Way – Same Sex Debate
David Henson at unorthodoxology – ban marriage
Erin Word at Mapless – Synchroblog: Legalizing Same Sex Marriage
Joshua Jinno at Antechurch – The Church Is Impotent
Kathy Escobar at The Carnival in My Head-It’s Easy to be Against Equal Rights When We Have Them
Tia Lynn at Abandon Image–Conservative Christians and Same-Sex Marriage